Tuesday 26 February 2013

Love is....

















.....when he writes you a letter and sends it in the post..in the age of blackberry, twitter, facebook, instagram, skype and all other ways of communicating. Love is also...when that letter expresses true..deep and intense feelings...sealed with a traditional candle wax seal :)

Bisous

Sunday 24 February 2013

"I want painful... difficult, devastating, life-changing, extraordinary love."

After watching this episode of scandal it immediately sank in that some women really do not want normalcy. For them normalcy is boring and quite frankly, i can understand that. Women like olivia pope want a love that is very strong, pure and true. A love that is independent of societal norms or peoples perception. A love that is exciting, passionate, life changing, and probably unpredictable. I get that part. The only bit that confuses me is 'painful and devastating' love. Why would anyone want that? Love is not supposed to hurt. It isnt.



What would you do if you had the power, and career she had? Would you choose painful, difficult, devastating, life-changing, extraordinary love? xoxo

Monday 4 February 2013

Good Girl, Bad Girl


Does being a good girl mean anything in the world we live in today? This question has been ringing in my head for a very long time especially as it always seems the bad girls get it all. You know, the ones that cheat their way through life, the ones that are calculating and conniving, the ones that care less for morals or integrity, the ones that fake it, slander, lie, back stab, sleep around, hurt people, mean, uncouth.You get my point. It seems our world today is full of such people and all of a sudden being a good person seems like an alien concept.

I hear comments like 'oh dear, how come she is getting married when she was a proper baddie in school'..This seems to be the norm though. You know, bad girls get hitched quicker than good  girls. Perhaps its something to do with the skills she garnered whilst jumping from bed to bed? ...now she knows how to sweep a man off his feet. these things require skills you see. I think girls like this learn faster than the good ones..on what a man wants and how to please him...and what to do to get a man where she wants him. I dont have the answers to this but i find it very intriguing.

Men apparently want 'a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets'. I guess good girls are in trouble in this department unless of course there is a genetic predisposition to being freaky which i highly doubt (PhD thesis anyone?). Some men believe they can bring 'the freak' out of a woman..Well goodluck with that. I say if she hasnt had a lot of experiences then that might be a tough one and you may need A LOT of time and practice.

'A lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets'...errr...how exactly is this transition supposed to rapidly occur if the woman in question is a virgin or hasn't had a lot of sexual encounters? lets be realistic..you dont just go from Mary Magdalene to Madonna in one second. Sentences like this makes me believe that deep down, men do not want a good girl..They want a bad girl who pretends to be good. 

 How's that for a monday morning rant? Lol

All about the Clique


I have a hypothesis that i am willing to share. Like i have stated, it is a hypothesis which means its by no means a fact and so people need to bear that in mind before reading on. It is however something i believe in hence my opinion. Its about girls that are a part of a clique especially those that have been in a clique since secondary school. People that are in a clique do not often have a mind of their own. they spend their time thinking of what others think of them and their actions are often centred around doing things deemed acceptable by the clique.

The problem with being in a clique is it does not allow you have your own identity. You basically do things your other mates are doing except of course you are the queen bee, which means you set the rules for the other girls to follow. These kind of girls are clones of each other in so many ways. They have the same opinions, values, e.t.c When they are in a relationship with a boyfriend, its never dating one person but the whole crew. There is no privacy here as relationship advice (solicited /unsolicited)  come from her mates and a lot of the time she does what her friends tell her to do which may not always be a good thing. Sadly, this type of behaviour could carry on even in old age.

The bit that is very destructive is when envy or  jealousy kicks in which usually does. These girls bitch behind each others backs and majority of the time, these friendships are very pretentious. They know this but feel the need to stick with each other to face the world...which i think shines light on their insecurities. Having a successful relationship when you are very cliquey is a bit of a challenge..and when you manage to have one, it is often very difficult for the other party involved.

The interesting thing about all this is the competition. It never stops. The competition spans all facets of life..from university to the married home..from the choices of schools your kids/future kids attend to if/where you holiday in the summer. This type of pressure surely must be daunting. It would be interesting to do a lifetime analysis on these women to see how they fair.

This of course, doesnt mean that if a woman wasnt part of a clique that she will have an identity. But, more often, if a woman spends a lot of time with herself then theres a lot of time for reflection and all. if she decides to do things her own way and makes her own mistakes and learns from it, she is more likely to learn more about herself as oppose to if her judgement is clouded all the time by the constant chatter of her ever growing circle. Just a thought.

Saturday 2 February 2013

For the love of Antiques

I found a treasure trove today where old books are collected and given for free. I was very shocked to find out such stores exist but mega excited at the same time. The store is part of the healthy planet organisation. This organisation stores books that charity shops, libraries and publishers don't have space for. They give away these books for free to people in the community via nationwide stores. I bought the Grosvenor house antiques fair book showcasing antiques from as far back as the 15th century. Each page had me drooling and this is arguably the best freebie i've ever had. You can check out their website here and locate your nearest book store.




This is an awesome way to take care of our environment and i hope you pop by a local store sometime.

Bisous.