On Friendships

It’s a fact that women have more complicated relationships with each other. Probably more complicated than they have with men...Probably. What i have come to understand in my time on earth is that the definition of friendships differs depending on the type of personality one is dealing with.

Some girls want to be friends with you solely based on what they can get from you or what you can do for them. I know people say its wise to choose your friends but if people choose friends based on what they can gain from them, is that really a good foundation to build a friendship on? It is also advised to surround yourself with people you can learn from/benefit from/become a better person around but since everyone’s idea of ‘becoming better’ differs, couldn’t this potentially invite exploitative personalities into your life?

For example girl A could choose her friends based on what she could gain socially, materially etc. To her, climbing the social ladder and wearing (borrowing) expensive things may be her own idea of becoming a better person. For girl B, choosing friends means choosing to surround herself with girls that are principled, intelligent, hardworking etc.  In both situations, both girls have chosen who they want to be associated with based on their idea of what friendship should be all about...does that make any of them wrong?

I try very hard not to judge people...but i personally have a SPECIFIC definition of friendship and unfortunately it does not include users and social climbers. In as much as i believe people should choose their friends, i don’t thinks its fair to get close to someone solely for the purpose of ‘gaining’ from them or exploiting them.  Friendship is a relationship that involves two people who individually have something to offer...it’s not a one way street where one party  keeps taking and never gives anything back in return.

Due to the fact that i have been exposed to users in the past, i am able to spot a user miles away....let’s just say my user-radar is super efficient.