As a young woman growing in this 21st century, i often hear people say one can never have it all and some things have got to give. For instance, if you are an ambitious woman, you most likely would be very successful career wise but may struggle in the relationship department or, may end up getting married to a man who you ended up settling for as your biological clock isnt exactly time conscious. Another example is, a very successful couple who have the best of everything but are very unhappy, or a poor couple who have so much love between them but aren't doing so well career wise. This mindset is everywhere you look, on blogs, television, in books, etc and it apparently is how life is or how people expect life to be. I honestly do not accept this mentality. I may be a naive little lady but i honestly do not ascribe to this.
Just as people attract who they are, people attract what they want through their thought process. Often at times, positive people do attract positive things into their lives and negative people also do attract so much negativity. I do believe that if you want something, you just have to think it and believe you can have it. Nothing in this life is impossible. I also do believe that you can have all of the above ie successful career, lovely relationship, beautiful kids, nice home etc...but i do believe you may not have it all at once. This is simply due to the fact that there is time for everything. Forcing certain things to happen when the universe is against it happening at that particular point in time is not a very wise move.
We come from a generation where people want things to happen as soon as possible maybe because a lot of things do occur that way. We are not as patient as our parents were which is understandable as times have changed. However, this mentality also affects our outlook on life. Rather than seeing the glass half full we see it half empty and i think this affects what we end up getting out of life as our predisposition is somewhat altered.
I do believe i can have it all. i really do. I just feel i may not have it all at the same time. For example, in the future when i am busy homeschooling my kids (dont ask), my career may suffer a little bit but i will never consider myself unsuccessful because i didnt get to the topmost ladder in my sector. I would feel that the ability to prioritise and care for my kids during that time rather than chasing promotions is in itself success because that would be of utmost importance to me at that time.And when my kids get into prep school, i can get back into being a career mum and find a way to juggle my time.I may keep juggling till my kids become less dependent and face my career full on. it is very possible it just all has to be at the right time.
One important factor a lot of people have never considered is the kind of man you end up getting married to. Your future husband does play a significant role in how you life turns out. if your husband isnt a supportive partner then this will be extremely difficult. Getting married to the right partner is the most important life decision you will ever make as that affects not only your career but your happiness, your future, your children's future etc. Everyone can have it all..it just depends on timing and your mentality as a person. Seeing the glass half full and emanating a lot of positivity helps. One other thing that makes 'having it all' less elusive is if a woman can manage her own time and not work long hours on another person's schedule.There is nothing wrong with wanting to have it all as far as we are cognizant of the fact that it may not all be at once for a very long time.
xoxo
GS
