Much ado about Valentines day

I never minded celebrating valentines day in previous years but these days i find it quite annoying. Over the years i have realised that i get very bored of repetitiveness..which in itself is very interesting because i am very change averse. A few years ago couples celebrated valentines day in their own privacy but with the advent of social media, it has become more like a reality TV series. In my opinion, this makes it unoriginal and more scripted. I do understand that nowadays people do enjoy scripted reality shows but when it comes to ones personal life i find that a tad disturbing. 

I missed those days when us girls would have Valentine dates and then recount the excitement we felt the following day. We would have sleep overs, manicure/ pedicure  in our Pjs and then talk about the day before with so much laughter and screams in the air. Today, one is flooded with information of valentine shenanigans through social media, without a choice of deciding if one wants all the juicy details or not. 

Another thing that is very apparent is how 'Valentine' is just a ploy by capitalist to cash in. I am not convinced that the man in my life should show me how much he loves me on one designated day. I need him to show me this everyday.. i demand that this be the case. This is the major reason why i am not so keen on valentines day...because id rather be sent presents, chocolates and flowers on random days just because. If the man i am dating waits till only Valentine day to spoil me i would be very upset. So you can imagine my confusion when i see lots of girls getting excited over being swept off their feet once a year. ONCE A YEAR? ( and maybe birthdays?)..that's not a love language anyone should be excited about. So ladies, if your man sweeps you off your feet once or twice a year..i am sending hugs your way darling you need it. Whatever you choose to do today please enjoy. For some of us it would be business as usual :)

PS: little gestures can also be romantic and can sweep a lady off her feet. Your man does not have to buy you stuff to show you he loves you. Although if he did that would be great :D

xoxo

GS

My Love For Great Gatsby

It seemed to me that the whole world was talking about the great gatsby movie when it first got released. I on the other hand had no clue what movies were out at the cinema because of my very hectic schedule. When i heard that Leonado Dicaprio starred in the movie i was excited to watch it..but i was more excited when i learnt it was based in the 1920's. That was when i knew i had to watch the movie. 

Unfortunately, the movie ended up being the saddest thing i have watched in a long time. For me, the summary of the movie goes like this: A man falls in love with a woman he could never have...made friends with people that only loved him for his money...and then gets killed by a total stranger for protecting this same woman who by the way, ended up leaving town with her family and never showed up at his funeral. In fact, no one showed up at his funeral..not even the well dressed elites who drank all the free champagne. Only one man did...someone he probably would have never imagined would. This goes to show that in life, we dont really need that many friends..one or two real friends is all one needs and not a bunch of people that will love you when things are going great for you and dump you like a bad habit when things are not. 

OKAY! back to the reason for this post. I love vintage fashion. I love everything vintage...from fashion to furnitures to architecture. I my friends was born in the wrong decade. Anyway, here are a few glamorous looks i adore :)

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Fun Flirty Summer

Fun Flirty Summer by glamscientist featuring tory burch heels

DON'T BE A NICKEL OUT HERE LOOKING FOR A DIME

Be the person you want to find. Don't be a nickel here looking for a dime.

Truer words have never been said. This statement reminds me of people who demand that which they are not and people who ask for things they cannot give in a relationship. The only way to know who you truly are and to know what you can give in a relationship is by taking the first step called HONESTY. Lying to everyone else cannot be as bad as lying to yourself. That my friend is more destructive. Look yourself in the mirror and figure out who the person looking right back at you is. Once that bit is sorted, the journey to self discovery may not be as bad as you think.

Sometimes we hear people say, ''they deserve each other''. Whether that's in a good or bad way, it is true. Just as you attract who you are, you marry who you deserve (except of course you have been forced into marriage or betrothed, then that is a completely different issue).

We all dream of marrying a prince or princess and living ''happily ever after''. You know, someone who is charming, and makes all our dreams come true. Someone who is kind, loving, caring and puts us first in everything. Someone who is hardworking, faithful, loyal and honest. Someone who will catch a grenade for us..Literally! That sounds great doesn't it? Of course it does.

But how can we expect all of these amazing traits from another human being when we ourselves do not possess them? why should we think that any one this amazing should settle for us? is it honestly fair for this amazing being to end up with someone who cannot offer them that which they are, that which they have worked hard to preserved all these years?

Fact is, you have to be who you are looking to find. Don't be a nickel out here looking for a dime.

Its not going to happen. You will not find this ''perfect'' person with all these amazing traits and somehow metamorphosize into those things yourself. Why would they, in all their 'perfection' want you anyway? If you want people like that then you have to be like them, NOW!

For example...

If i want a hardworking and honest man, then i have to be hardworking and honest.
If i want someone who is kind and caring, then i have to also be kind and caring.
If i want a God fearing man, then i have to be God fearing.

Its unfair for anyone to end up with what they do not deserve and sometimes this situation does happen. this is why it is important to learn to listen to that voice within and to tell yourself the truth always...because most times when he punches you in the face...you knew all along he was that type of person..but you just ignored. Now you feel trapped and the worst part is, you have no one to talk to because all your life, you told yourself a lie..unfortunately, that LIE includes the people you call friends.


xoxo

Love is....

.....when he writes you a letter and sends it in the post..in the age of blackberry, twitter, facebook, instagram, skype and all other ways of communicating. Love is also...when that letter expresses true..deep and intense feelings...sealed with a traditional candle wax seal :)

Bisous

"I want painful... difficult, devastating, life-changing, extraordinary love."

After watching this episode of scandal it immediately sank in that some women really do not want normalcy. For them normalcy is boring and quite frankly, i can understand that. Women like olivia pope want a love that is very strong, pure and true. A love that is independent of societal norms or peoples perception. A love that is exciting, passionate, life changing, and probably unpredictable. I get that part. The only bit that confuses me is 'painful and devastating' love. Why would anyone want that? Love is not supposed to hurt. It isnt.



What would you do if you had the power, and career she had? Would you choose painful, difficult, devastating, life-changing, extraordinary love? xoxo

Inspiration

I live by this...its so me :) Life is too short not to be what you want to be.

Why did i get married too?

I just watched Tyler Perry's 'why did i get married too' for like the 8th time and each time, i get very emotional. The movie highlights the fact that life is indeed too short to let little things get in the way of having a lovely life. The movie made me reflect on relationships these days and how people let ego, pride, impatience, lies, deceit, jealousy, greed e.t.c get in the way of truly finding happiness. I feel a lot of young people are honestly too impatient to even understand basic and fundamental concepts needed for a true, loving and lasting relationship. If you don't agree all you have to do is look at the current divorce rates..surely there has to be a problem, no?

There are so many reasons why people get married but whatever these reasons are, it should stand the test of time. If it does not, it will be tough to survive trials and tribulations which is a part of life everyone goes through. People get married for the wrong reasons and eventually, these reasons reflect in their relationships. One thing that is true though is the grass is not always greener on the other side.

If you haven't watched this movie i highly recommend it. Brilliant performance by all actors :)

Enjoy!