DON'T BE A NICKEL OUT HERE LOOKING FOR A DIME

Be the person you want to find. Don't be a nickel here looking for a dime.

Truer words have never been said. This statement reminds me of people who demand that which they are not and people who ask for things they cannot give in a relationship. The only way to know who you truly are and to know what you can give in a relationship is by taking the first step called HONESTY. Lying to everyone else cannot be as bad as lying to yourself. That my friend is more destructive. Look yourself in the mirror and figure out who the person looking right back at you is. Once that bit is sorted, the journey to self discovery may not be as bad as you think.

Sometimes we hear people say, ''they deserve each other''. Whether that's in a good or bad way, it is true. Just as you attract who you are, you marry who you deserve (except of course you have been forced into marriage or betrothed, then that is a completely different issue).

We all dream of marrying a prince or princess and living ''happily ever after''. You know, someone who is charming, and makes all our dreams come true. Someone who is kind, loving, caring and puts us first in everything. Someone who is hardworking, faithful, loyal and honest. Someone who will catch a grenade for us..Literally! That sounds great doesn't it? Of course it does.

But how can we expect all of these amazing traits from another human being when we ourselves do not possess them? why should we think that any one this amazing should settle for us? is it honestly fair for this amazing being to end up with someone who cannot offer them that which they are, that which they have worked hard to preserved all these years?

Fact is, you have to be who you are looking to find. Don't be a nickel out here looking for a dime.

Its not going to happen. You will not find this ''perfect'' person with all these amazing traits and somehow metamorphosize into those things yourself. Why would they, in all their 'perfection' want you anyway? If you want people like that then you have to be like them, NOW!

For example...

If i want a hardworking and honest man, then i have to be hardworking and honest.
If i want someone who is kind and caring, then i have to also be kind and caring.
If i want a God fearing man, then i have to be God fearing.

Its unfair for anyone to end up with what they do not deserve and sometimes this situation does happen. this is why it is important to learn to listen to that voice within and to tell yourself the truth always...because most times when he punches you in the face...you knew all along he was that type of person..but you just ignored. Now you feel trapped and the worst part is, you have no one to talk to because all your life, you told yourself a lie..unfortunately, that LIE includes the people you call friends.


xoxo